The way I prove I’m sane / attractive / loveable is to be in a relationship.

A relationship should be easy.

A relationship should be hard.

If it’s not I should find another one.

If it's not I'm failing in some way, or my partner is failing in some way.

I shouldn’t want a relationship too much, because they only come to you if you aren’t looking or trying.

etc etc etc.

These are just a few examples of relationship myths and shoulds we have inherited, and continue to reproduce, that cause us such suffering! In my quest to reduce this suffering, I’ve benefited immensely from a meditation practice, and applying mindfulness principles. But I have craved more practical and specific application of these principles than is usually offered. What would Pema Chodron do on Bumble? How would she deal with ghosting while she was internet dating in 2018? How would Thich Nhat Hanh maintain a relationship if he was raising young children and his work was dependent on using screens for the majority of each day?

In response to these questions, this class will look closely at the myths and shoulds we still carry. I'll share Astrology's wisdom on the very real differences between people's relational needs/desires. We’ll build a practice of fulfilling those personal needs/desires that is not dependent on what relationship we are in, or not in. And yet - this practice will be relational, and will be for use in any actual or potential relationships in your life!

About Sarah Fontaine

Sarah Fontaine practices experimental healing arts in the forms of writing, performance and astrology readings. She publishes books with her sister at Carville Annex Press. She breathes and drinks water and lives in San Francisco, and spends as much time with plants as possible.